How To Handle Self Esteem Issues Being Overweight

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How To Handle Self Esteem Issues Being Overweight

Happy Weekend Everyone πŸ™‚ ! What plans for weekend ? I am planning to go to parlour tomorrow, need some pampering after a rough week.

I have been writing on FitnessVsWeightLoss for almost an year now πŸ™‚ ! I can’t think about my life without it. At the same time, I am somehow bored of giving gyaan. Trying to write on topics which everyone can relate to and use in his/her personal life. If you want me to write on some specific topic, let me know. I will be glad to oblige. And I am all ears to feedback πŸ™‚

The thought post came in my mind a few minutes back. One of our clients of Weight Loss ProgramΒ , sent me an email which read –

I know u must be sleeping by now… Just sending a message for you to view tomorrow… As u know I had gone for a walk… While I was walking a certain group of girls started shouting ‘moti, moti’ from their terrace…. I just felt so hurt.. But at the same time I m used to it too… Nd for larger part of my life i didnt go out for walks because of this reason only. Though I didn’t stop walking yet can’t stop thinking abt ‘what is wrong with being moti except health?’ Just sharing with u as I know that u would understand the feeling..

I find it strange that our society is so damn judgmental about weight , that an overweight person is the laughing stock of the community for ever. How can a so called ‘human’ be so inhuman to someone ?

I have promised our client that she will don a svelte figure and we will do whatever it takes her to make sure we get there !

How To Handle Self Esteem Issues Being Overweight

How To Handle Self Esteem Issues Being Overweight

There are 2 ways of not getting hurt. Choose what you like –

1. Ignore

Like out client did, she ignored and kept walking. This is the way most of the people opt ! Even if you choose to ignore, talk to someone and blurt out your feelings. This will help you not to take things to heart for a very long time. Remember, stress is the enemy of weight loss.

2. Face them !

I have done that, n trust me its aaaah so awesome for your confidence. Fat people are judged on their eating habits. People think that they eat a lot which is not true sometimes. One could hardly be eating and still be obese.

On one such occasion while dining with my family friends, one of my uncle’s friend told me few years back, “you must eat less, look at your tyres” . I smiled and replied – ” Do you pay for my food?” . My parents were angry when I shot back at him but I know if I took his crap to heart, I would have given up and stopped working on my weight. It worked great and the guy stopped making remarks henceforth.

On another occasion when one of my batchmates during MBA taunted me on my weight, I told her to mind her jeans πŸ˜‰ , one day she will come to me and ask for help. The day is still to come, she does not know that hers truly has become a weight loss blogger. I am sure she will open her mouth when we meet, I will click her picture with her open mouth and post it on our Facebook page πŸ˜› .

If I were in our client’s situation, I would have told them on their face to SHUT UP !

Love yourself. There is nothing more important in Life.

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I have done my bit by scribbling some thoughts here.

By the way, a lot of my dear readers are sending me messages that they could not find me on Facebook. Those who wish to be in my personal friend list, I am here :).

Share with us how you handle self esteem issues !

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  1. Such a nice thought Tarun! The same goes for skinny people. I have faced so many taunts all my life for being skinny but today all the mouths are shut!!!! My pics on fb usually have comments like ‘hey how did you out on weight?’

  2. Personally speaking all these nasty comments are though part and parcel of the life of an obese person but they should be best treated as a push to change your life. There is nothing wrong in being fat or obese and no one should have any right to abuse your personality in any way but the fact remains that fat is dangerous. So instead of snapping back why not rethink your health and do something to make it better…. not for others but yourself because you deserve a better healthy life. Tarun great post but … πŸ˜›

  3. Kanan, you are correct. But rethinking health may take minutes, implementing it would take a few months or a couple of years. Till then what ? Take abuse ? These instances can make a person weak, its best to keep the negativity aside, no matter what it takes and keep going.

  4. Yes Tarun, I do agree but we can never improve in any aspect of our life till we don’t keep doing a regular reality check of our own life… I feel that you cannot change other’s attitude towards you but a change in your own attitude can change everything around you. So we all need a reality check — do it now and change your life for your betterment.. πŸ™‚

  5. I am saying the same thing πŸ˜› . When a person is already taking measures to improve health and people try to put him/her down, he/she will have to change your attitude and not take it to heart. I never said that people should stop making remarks, they will never do. One may not have control over others, but certainly has control over his/her attitude.

  6. Our society is so judgmental.. skinny, obese, job, marriage, age, etc everything is a topic to pick on. I agree we should give back to them but sometimes it is best to ignore & move on.. It all depends on situation..

    But i strongly feel, we should not take any kind of abuse, may be its the new-gen way of thought process.. I am bugged by everyone, when i was skinny.. later when i put on weight.. im still picked-on & now im lean.. still people pick-on me saying im dieting, etc.. I just give back saying.. “Hey, I am onto healthy lifestyle, Y dont you do the same, than wasting time commenting on me”

    Sorry for long comment.. felt like vent out everything.. πŸ™‚

  7. You are right Anjalee πŸ™‚ . Perhaps people’s focus is not on their own, they always poke their nose everywhere , hmmph ..

  8. completely agree with you tarun… when people- known, unknows, strangers, and friends and family advice me in futile, i just give a smile and say thank you for your valuable advice…!! πŸ™‚

    painful is when someone knows the actual problem and still taunts to hurt you…! difficult to deal with it.. i scream out on such people esp my parents.. πŸ˜›

  9. Thanks for a motivating post Tarun. And I agree to most of the comments posted here. However, there is one thing which I feel is important to realize i.e. generally it would be overweight women who would be on the target. I m not saying that men don’t go through similar abuse, surely they do but unfortunately their number is far less than women. For this society, an ideal woman has to slim with long hair, beautiful eyes and girly manners. This is most unfortunate… Why women have to be ideal in their looks nd behavior and men are ideal no matter how they look or behave? There has to be a deeper understanding to it and worst of all… In the case mentioned above, it were women teasing a woman and no men were involved. We really need to think that, is this the way actually treat our own gender? How can we expect men to respect us then?
    I hope women realize that their existence is not because of a man. They don’t have to look perfect for someone else… The just have to look the way they like themselves.
    And yes nothing wrong in being fat unless it isn’t affecting ur health… If it does then surely reduce… But just be comfortable in ur own body.

  10. beautiful article tarun, i had my share of such teasing too!!! it really discouraging. but at the same time it also becomes our stairs to success. one girl in my mba had written on fb that i don’t have looks nor i have brains. Though i kept quiet that day, after 2 years when v bumped into each other and wen all eyes were on me. she was speechless and it was among my most memorable day in life.


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