How Facebook Makes You Feel Bad About Yourself?


How Facebook Makes You Feel Bad About Yourself?

Facebook nowadays is a part and parcel of everyone’s life. It’s a great way to be in touch with friends and family miles apart. It helps you connect with people you parted long back like your childhood friends, classmates, college mates! Such a beautiful platform has now starting making a lot of people feel miserable. There are a lot of studies about this behavior in individuals. Harvard Business Review recently published a study and findings of primary survey conducted on people from all walks of life.

How Facebook Makes You Feel Bad About Yourself

How Facebook Makes You Feel Bad About Yourself?

There are two ways in which Facebook Makes You Feel Bad About Yourself.

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Firstly, it creates an environment of competition for every damn thing on earth. Unknowingly a person starts comparing his/her life and accomplishments with others. Usually people share positive aspect of their lives only. “My new car” or “My new apartment” kind of statuses everyone would have seen. Rarely would you see people sharing negatives like “My beau met with an accident” or “I am bankrupt”.

Its human to envy and be jealous of someone. Usually when your Facebook friend brags a lot about his self declared victories or puts up pictures of vising a new country every now and then, one of the most common reaction is – “Seems he/she has become very rich” . You would not know the struggle of reaching there, in fact you would not want to know! The next reaction is to pretend ignoring his/her updates. You would turn off the notifications but still visit his/her profile everyday. You would ignore the “Like” button totally. “Why should I like, huh ” – is the thought process! Facebook was born to help people increase their social network, to feel connected and loved. But going through successes of people can trigger feelings of being a loser. It can create feelings of jealousy, envy and on an extreme note hatred too.

In another research, German scientists conducted a study on 600 people who logged on Facebook. One out of every three people felt worse after viewing vacation pictures of people. People who surf more on Facebook and post less were even more dissatisfied comparing themselves with others.

Second way in which Facebook Makes You Feel Bad About Yourself is the lack of attention which is quantified by likes and comments. When you upload a new profile picture, how many times you go and check how many likes and comments have you received? Common, we all do that! The heights of desperation(viewed as acceptance) is reached when you wish to surpass the number of likes on your previous profile picture.

Let’s talk about women specifically! Women are more likely to feel stressed or insecure about their appearance. Women unknowingly feel pressurized to post pictures where they look very adorable , beautiful or smoking hot as per their definition of society acceptance. Men on the other hand post more about their accomplishments. They don’t want to miss any opportunity of claiming their candidature for the group –  “successful men”. Less attention on Facebook can inculcate feelings of insecurity and inferiority amongst people.

My last 2 cents – use Facebook to your benefit ! If it gives you more frustration than happiness, you know what to do 🙂

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